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Children and young people’s views on learning about sex, sexuality and relationships: literature review

Exploring how children gain knowledge and seek support

Publication date November 2022

Young people receive messages about relationships, sex and sexuality throughout all aspects of their lives. What they learn in school is important, however, lived experience, relationships, social media, and social norms also have an impact.

To find out what research tells us about young people's experiences of learning about relationships, sex and sexuality we reviewed the published literature.

We identified 172 journal articles and reports, all of which drew on the direct views of children for inclusion in our study. We looked at:

  • how and where 11- to 25-year-olds learn about relationships, sex and sexuality
  • children’s views of the relationships and sex education (RSE) they currently receive or have previously received
  • differences in children’s experiences based on their personal characteristics (e.g. sexuality, gender identity, age).

Our literature review highlights the need for adults to better understand children's different experiences and will inform the NSPCC’s research, service development, policy influencing, and communications.

Authors: Vicki Hollis, Rachel Margolis, Mike Williams, Zoe Swaine, Flavia Russo, Madeleine Baldwin, Chloe Gill 
Published: 2022 

Children and young people’s views on learning about relationships, sex, and sexuality: A narrative review of UK literature
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Barn plant a phobl ifanc am ddysgu am berthnasoedd, rhyw a rhywioldeb: Adolygiad naratif o lenyddiaeth y Deyrnas Unedig
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Key findings

Children learn about relationships, sex and sexuality intentionally and unintentionally inside and outside of school

Wider society, peers, friends and family all influence children. They also learn through social media, pornography, and other online sources. Parents can sometimes face challenges in having conversations about sex and healthy relationships with their children.

Children’s formal in-school relationships and sex education (RSE) doesn’t match their lived experience

Most RSE assumes children are heterosexual and does not consider LGBTQ+ experiences. Children think that information is provided too late on topics such as periods, consent and recognising sexual abuse and grooming.

Children want school-based RSE to be more regular, interactive, skills-based, inclusive, and positively framed

Suggestions include:

  • interactive classes
  • specially trained members of staff in schools to help children with concerns around sex and relationships
  • discussing real-life issues
  • taking a life-skills approach that doesn’t focus on abstinence
  • learning from people who have personal experience of a topic.

School culture is also important for helping children establish what is and isn’t acceptable regarding relationships, sex and sexuality

Children have described how they would like to see the whole-school environment reflect an ethos of respect and care for all students.

Please cite as: Hollis, V. et al (2022) Children and young people's views on learning about relationships, sex, and sexuality: a narrative review of UK literature. London: NSPCC.  

Children and young people’s views on learning about relationships, sex, and sexuality: A narrative review of UK literature
Download the report (PDF)
Barn plant a phobl ifanc am ddysgu am berthnasoedd, rhyw a rhywioldeb: Adolygiad naratif o lenyddiaeth y Deyrnas Unedig
Download the report in Welsh (PDF)